I’ve known many financially successful individuals throughout my lifetime. It’s incredibly easy to get caught up in the idea that more money will make you happier. After all, more is better than less isn’t it? The irony of life, is the harsh reality of it. Money can remove unhappiness and relieve stress but overall does not have a large impact on day-to-day happiness. If it did, you would think that the celebrities you read about who blew up their lives and are living in misery would be happier than us. But the law of diminishing returns and hedonic adaptation can be easy to understand but hard to accept.
The most dangerous assumption to carry, in my opinion, is the idea that more money = more happiness. It certainly doesn’t hurt to have a larger nest egg, but I’ve seen money come with a range of problems.
One individual I met (we will call them Jane) was an extremely intelligent lawyer who was a partner at a small firm. Jane made very good money. However, in her mind it wasn’t a lot. She knew people she worked with who were far wealthier. This became a big source of misery for her. She ended up taking it out on her family and friends and burning bridges in her personal life. Behaviorally, we can see that although reality shows she is by all metrics (successful) in her career, due to social comparison and an inflated sense of self, she robbed herself of enjoying the fruits of her labor. In this situation I would define a loose equation for happiness as:
Happiness = Income - expectations
by inputting your numbers you can see where you fall on the happiness spectrum.
Jane’s Happiness
$150,000 (income) - $170,000 (expectations) = negative (happiness)
One other individual I met (we will call him Steve) was Jane’s boyfriend and an extremely content individual. He loved his office job. He was less financially successful than Jane, but much happier. He always underspent his income, had low expectations, and was intrinsically motivated to work hard for himself and his team. His hobbies were inexpensive and valued relationships over material goods. They were financially incompatible individuals which later showed when they broke up.
Steve’s Happiness
$90,000 (income) - $60,000 (expectations) = positive (happiness)
It is extremely easy for an individual to attribute their financial success solely to their skill or intellect and ignore or dismiss any factors that were outside of their control. Some factors being: who they were born to, the people they met in their career, their ability to pay for expensive schooling, etc. Successful individuals can quickly fall into the trap of falsely assuming that their financial success was solely due to their abilities. This is a prime example of survivorship bias and overconfidence and can lead to successful individuals perceiving themselves as subsequently better than less successful individuals and inadequate in respect to their peers.
Money as financial writer Morgan Housel put it is “The Greatest Show on Earth” and reveals a lot about human nature and behavior. Re-examining your beliefs around money is incredibly important. There are so many ways to view it. Some people view money as a tool to build and live a better life, while as others use it as a benchmark of success to compare themselves against others. Your relationship with money will have a huge impact on your day to day happiness.
